disarmed i realised how easily you can lose all animosity towards someone you’ve deemed your enemy as soon as that person stops behaving as such.
- carlos ruiz zafón.
(from: the shadow of the wind)

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the above quote got me… i read it, re-read it and have gone back to it over and over again.

it has me considering how I might be able to apply this in my own life… how I might be able to disarm others with my own behaviour by treating them with consideration rather than as an enemy.

it’s not that i specifically, or deliberately, do treat anyone as an enemy, more that i totally get what the author has written about being treated in a kind and friendly way; how when one response is expected, that another is disarming.